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4 Types of Communication

Aggressive Communication: Aggressive communication is when you interact with people using force and intimidation. If you force your needs, wants and opinions on others, you are acting aggressively. If you use your vocal or physical presence to try to intimidate people into agreeing with you, you are acting aggressively. Aggressive communication often signals a lack of empathy and respect. People who use this form of communication are usually unwilling to compromise or listen. This strong interaction often leads to problems with personal relationships. Two people cannot build a life together if someone mandates every idea and belief their spouse must follow. No conflict resolution will work, no compromises will be made and no progress will ever occur in the relationship. Assertive Communication: Assertive communication is the most effective communication skill you can use. Assertive communication means you stand-up for your needs, wants and opinions in a respectful and clear manner. You speak for yourself without trying to push your ideas on anyone else. You are open and honest while remaining calm and courteous. Assertive communication often signals respect for yourself and for others. People who use this form of communication are usually willing to compromise and listen. They are able to use conflict resolution skills to solve problems and create fair compromises. Ultimately, they are able to grow healthy relationships with solid foundations based on honesty and mutual-respect. Passive Communication: Passive communication means you hide your true needs, wants and opinions in an effort to please other people. You may not actually lie, but you’re not completely honest either. You shy away from any kind of confrontation and often avoid communication in general. You rarely speak-up for yourself, which results in anger and resentment when your needs and wants go unmet. Passive communication often signals a deep lack of self-respect and self-confidence. By putting everyone else’s needs before your own, you hide your true self, making it impossible for anyone to become close to you. This is particularly problematic when it comes to relationships. Having so many un-communicated needs, wants and opinions leaves you miserable and leaves your spouse unable to help, find a compromise or even understand the problem. Passive-Aggressive Communication: Passive-aggressive communication is when you act passive, but are driven by aggression. You initially hide your needs, wants and opinions to avoid confrontation. However, you use subtle and indirect acts of aggression to display your true feelings. You do not try to intimidate people with your vocal or physical presence, but you do challenge them using embarrassment, sabotage and outright lying. Passive-aggressive communication often signals a lack of self-esteem coupled with a great deal of resentment. Dealing with everything in an under-handed manner is extremely unhealthy, especially for personal relationships. The lack of honesty means no conflict resolution, growth or understanding can be accomplished.
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Stay or Change

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Is Marriage Counseling Only for Relationships in Trouble?

You don’t need to have a troubled relationship to seek therapy. Marriage counseling can also help couples who simply want to strengthen their bonds and gain a better understanding of each other. Marriage counseling can also help couples who plan to get married. This pre-marriage counseling can help you achieve a deeper understanding of each other and iron out differences before a union is sealed.
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Announcements

We are excited to announce that Seyler-Berkebile Marriage & Family Therapy is EXPANDING! Opening Oct 1st, Our Jeannette/Greensburg location will be offering 3 more therapy rooms, plus a larger Family Therapy room!! This room will provide space for families, as well as, being child friendly. This expansion will allow us to accommodate our growing population of children and families needing our services. In addition, SBMFT is excited to have new therapists who specialize in children join our team. These therapists have many years of experience working with the younger population. SBMFT prides ourselves on dedication, education, connecting and devotion to our clients and our community. We look forward to continuing to help couples, individuals, families, children and the community for many years to come…..  
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